Why Marry in the Church?
We have a friend, a priest, who has a crucial first question he asks every couple that sits down with him to begin marriage preparation: "Why do you want to be married in the Church?" Many are surprised when he tells them that their first answer, the one that comes most readily, "because we are in love," might be true, but its incomplete. People who want to marry because they fell in love don't need to marry in the Church. People in love marry in courthouses by Justices of th
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What Others Need to See in Our Marriages
At least three times a week, weather permitting, we walk a mile and a quarter into work together. It's healthy. It's companionable. And it's a great time to connect. Sometimes we talk about work, or the kids, or upcoming projects around the house. But we also share dreams, thoughts about books or movies, or politics. But here's the interesting thing: it's not just about us. We are surprised at how often colleagues or neighbors will tell us they saw us from their car as they d
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Faith, Trust & Doubt In Your Marriage
It doesn't take something as dramatic as an affair, or losing several thousand from the savings account in a gambling casino, to erode trust in your marriage. It can be as simple as a couple of broken promises. A few commitments not met. The last minute cancellation of a date again. A failure to ever redeem the "rain check" you promised last time. Maybe each is a separate incident. Maybe each is followed by an apology, and a promise to forgive. And yet...even as they forgive,
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